Life, in its poetic intricacy, often seems like a sequence of chapters. Some are smooth, filled with sunny days and mild winds. Others? Well, they’re more like unforeseen tornadoes, just throwing us into a whirlwind of change. Maybe it could be a new job, moving cities; the end of one’s relationship; or even going into parenthood. Significantly, no matter what it is that leaves you feeling this way be aware that if feels like being lost at sea at these times.
Firstly, acknowledge those feelings. There is nothing wrong in feeling a whirlwind of emotions – experience excitement, fear or hope and sadness. They deserve their moment. See them as markers along the way. Now, let’s discuss self-care. No, not just bubble baths and scented candles (although those can be nice!), but authentic care for ourselves. This might entail defining your limits, getting sufficient sleep, eating healthily and perhaps engaging yourself in an activity that keeps you grounded. It is as good as putting on your lifejacket in stormy waters.
Remember that change often fragments our sense of identity. In this new chapter, who are we? Take this as a chance to find out, discovering new things about yourself or perhaps even recreating who you are. You are the writer here, and this chapter is yours to write. Reach out to your support system whether it is friends, family or a therapist. They are your life raft, willing to lend a hand or an ear when it all gets too much. And don’t forget, in turn, to be supportive of others as well. All of us are sailing in these waters.
Finally, give it time. Life’s rhythms are like the ocean, and sometimes you just have to surf it for a while. Remember, calm seas never made a skilled sailor. Trust in your ability to stand there and ride it out.
So, dear friend as you go through your own life changes knowing it is ok to feel what ever emotions they stir in you. Enjoy this change, surf these waves and find out where else your new adventure will lead you. across this tempest could lie the greatest brightness of sunshine.
Be strong, be hopeful and keep sailing onwards.
With warmth and understanding,
Hazel